Southern Values

There’s that southern politeness

 

Despite posting no personal information here, people sure seem to think they "know" so much about me

 

I don't know the poster at all, nor do I feel that they're defenseless and in need of my protection.

Im just calling out a pretty outrageous personal attack that you and others seem to feel is warranted. All in a thread about southern values

 

That second post clearly relays that I don't know why the hell im supposed to treat your rudeness with kid gloves.

The rudeness and arrogance comes straight from, and is directly aimed at, your posts.

 

Didnt realize sharing your life story with anonymous strangers who may harass or screw with you was deceitful or dishonest. Like, I had one poster tracking the times I posted once and was like "does your boss know." I know how assholes operate, and if you have strong opinions, some people will definitely take it personally and try to take it out on you.

 

That post you're getting all riled up about was half in jest (lol! You shoulda read what it was edited and diluted down from...), and again, aimed at his posting persona.

Per his posts, he is...not someone id ever care to know in real life.

 

Perhaps if you’d started a thread about politeness, hospitality, decency and treating others with respect that didn’t include a pot shot at others ….

 

Of course

 

Having lived W of the mississippi for 33 years now, mostly in Colo, here a few things I've noticed.
1. 26 years ago I was in a bar in Durango. I knew the bartender. His friend from I think Mass. had been in town for a week. She was sitting at the bar. I asked her how she liked Durango/Colo. She said, I've been here all week & not a single person has asked me what I do for a living. Oh, they've asked what I like to do for fun, etc., but not work. People out here are much more likely to have friendships/bonds based on what they do for fun. It is not unusual for a 20 year old to hang out with a 60 year old due to hunting, fishing, skiing etc. One of my besties is 25 years younger than me. & that guy just bought a boat with a guy older than me.
1b. Durango was the 1st place I lived here. My impression was that people are super laid back about work which I took to mean they were super laid back. I was at a ski swap & saw some folks I knew from work (it's a small town). They totally blew me off. Lesson: they are NOT laid back about recreation. There's a saying here: There are no friends & there is no family on a powder day. You can be 15 mins late for a work related thing, but you better not make someone wait at a trailhead.
2. People are more reserved. They are not super loud & boisterous.* They are more taken aback by strangers talking to them. Example. Was at central grocery in New Orleans & strangers said, Oh, boy you gonna eat that whole thing? What is that any way (pointing at the menu). Coloradans would not find it rude, but they would be a little surprised & they would be very unlikely to do it themselves. * I've a new colleague from Arkansas & she is super loud. In fact, my wife was trying to record a lecture & L was outside the studio for some reason & the IT guy had to go tell her to shut up. I got L's side of the story the next day. Why? Cuz I could hear her from way around the corner telling the story.
3. I've only on rare occasion been called sir & those are ex military & Texans. Sir & m'mam are not used.

 

It’s only a pot shot if your guilty.

 

Yet, people who disagree with me seem very interested in what I do for work or how many kids I have, or if I'm hetero or whatever

 

I think it's more of an old person thing.

 

My wife's a northerner. I grew up here in Fla but lived up north, and traveled a fair amount around US, and from my experience, on the scale of punctuality as a virtue, the north kicks the souths ass pretty roundly.

We're by and large, more laid back down south than up north (although if you factor rural vs urban, you can throw north v south out the wondow).

But that's just me (ie jmho).

FWIW.