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Southern Values

Discussion in 'Too Hot for Swamp Gas' started by Orange_and_Bluke, Feb 7, 2023.

  1. Orange_and_Bluke

    Orange_and_Bluke Premium Member

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    When I first met my FIL some 20 years ago, I still remember how he reacted to some of my southern tendencies. He was and is a very liberal northerner. And when addressed as sir, he not only didn’t appreciate it, he mostly dismissed it.
    Here are a few values that I was raised by and enjoy passing on to my children.
    3 Southern Values We’d All Do Well to Adopt
    Hospitality, being neighborly
    Respect
    Timeliness, respecting others time

    Go ahead libs, rip away!

    https://verilymag.com/2018/11/southern-manners-everyone-should-adopt
     
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  2. Orange_and_Bluke

    Orange_and_Bluke Premium Member

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    People in the South can usually count on their neighbors to be, well, neighborly.

    Southerners are mindful of their time, especially when it affects other people.


    If I could choose only one word to describe the culture of the South, it would be this: respect.

    While the practice of saying “ma’am” and “sir” might seem silly or unnecessary to many people outside the South, these terms exhibit a great deal of respect to their recipient.
    Hot take…many libbies do not give a crap about these ideals and the culture. You don’t have to give a crap, but you should be aware that many people like me will fight to maintain this family atmosphere.
     
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  3. wgbgator

    wgbgator Premium Member

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    This thread is not a good example of respecting others time
     
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  4. slayerxing

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    I mean - it would be great if everyone was kind, respectful, and punctual. I don't think anyone would disagree with that. Why would you get ripped for that?
     
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  5. Orange_and_Bluke

    Orange_and_Bluke Premium Member

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    River asked me what were southern values.
    Seems like he knew, but decided to “insult” me instead.
     
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  6. wgbgator

    wgbgator Premium Member

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    There is only one Southern value I respect and it is dancing like this:

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  7. Orange_and_Bluke

    Orange_and_Bluke Premium Member

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    We can all be thankful that you decided not to have children.
    Of course you don’t care about these things.
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  8. rivergator

    rivergator Too Hot Mod Moderator VIP Member

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    Please Point out the insult
    Thanks
     
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  9. wgbgator

    wgbgator Premium Member

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    Ah is this a taste of that famous Southern hospitality and respect you were talking about?
     
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  10. Orange_and_Bluke

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    No that’s called fighting fire with fire.
     
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  11. BigCypressGator1981

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    [​IMG]
     
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  12. Orange_and_Bluke

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    Did you not ask me what were the differences in southern values to northern values?
    You’re either playing games with me or you’re acting obtuse.
     
  13. wgbgator

    wgbgator Premium Member

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    Ah, mud slinging and hypocrisy, those are more recognizable Southern values
     
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  14. Orange_and_Bluke

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    And yet, there are some who have already ridiculed.
     
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  15. wgbgator

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    The values you mentioned are completely generic and more or less what a broad array of people around the world find to be decent behavior lol
     
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  16. rivergator

    rivergator Too Hot Mod Moderator VIP Member

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    I did. Again, what’s the insult?
     
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  17. Orange_and_Bluke

    Orange_and_Bluke Premium Member

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    You chose to poke at me.
     
  18. wgbgator

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    You couldnt make this movie today, conservatives would call it racist cultural appropriation. Cancel culture is out of control, folks.
     
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  19. AgingGator

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    I had a very similar experience, though my FIL warmed up pretty quickly as he was in business in the south and had already bought in to the culture. MIL never really did. Her disrespect to me almost ended Mrs. Aging and my relationship. I was the lowest SIL on the totem poll for years. After a while I was the only SIL left, and the only one who had really looked after any of her daughters. I never forgave her for that. My wife to this day cannot understand how I can and will strike up a conversation with anyone, anytime. It’s how my parents were and how myself and my siblings were raised in the south.
     
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  20. exiledgator

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    As someone raised with some of these "Southern Values" presented here, I'm always amused by the presumption of some "Southerners" that they have somehow cornered the market on kindness. That they're kindness is the true kindness.

    We bought a house up heah in the rude libby New England. No one brought us cookies to welcome us. What jerks. Winter comes and we get hit with a doozey of a storm. I hadn't learned I needed a snowblower yet and was shoveling my driveway with every storm (ugh). My reclusive non-cookie-bringing jerk of a neighbor walks over to the end of my driveway (where the huge 3' slushy snowback is) and proceeds to clear it out with his snowblower. I tried to put myself in his field of vision to wave a big thanks - but he wouldn't even look at me even though there was zero chance he didn't see me trying to thank him.

    This is anecdotal of the hardy New Englander. There is a strong individuality AND a presumed duty to help others. Sounds like kindness to me. I think much of it comes from the hardscrabble life of previous generations. That's just what one did. Period. The lack of chit-chat in the check out line doesn't remove this duty.

    And I don't pretend to think this is the sole domain of New Englanders. There are many flavors of kindness and community. For some reason, some Southerners feel a greater need to protect / project theirs as better than other parts of the country's kindness. Perhaps a sense of victimhood.
     
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