Too Polite?

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  1. 96Gatorcise

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    The world could use a little more politeness.

    Please, thank you etc.

    If you are wearing a name tag or you tell me your name, I will make sure I use it.
    Especially when dealing with a service. (phone rep, server, cashier any person that is doing a service for me)

    I have always found I get better service when I make a personal connection by using a person's name.

    "may I take your order" Yes, thank you, Mary. Not that hard to do.
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    What people tend to forget is Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss, Sir, ma'am are all titles of respect regardless of age and proper etiquette.
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    If my 4 yr old said yeah or nah to an adult, she'd get some serious evil eye from her mother and I. She knows better than to even say that to us. Lol.
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    I think a lot of it is regional cultural as someone said earlier. None of my parents friends growing up were ever offended by it, and none of my friends offended my parents by saying it (mostly meaning the sir and ma'am stuff, the please and TY piece is basic politeness everywhere).
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    Oh, I didn't mean any offense by it. Agreed it's regional. Just laughing at the difference.

    When my sister went to LSU and brought her friends home they all called my parents by Mr or Mrs and their first name instead of last. That was so bizzarre to me at the time. But really cool. It was like polite but informal wrapped into one. That's how I teach my children to address adults that we are friends with.
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    That's a sick story... sarcasm... hope you got it.

    Bad is good and being kind is an insult in this backward-ass new world of ghetto-twitter slang.
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    I was raised in the typical southern way. In addition to sir & ma'am, I was to never back talk any adult. I was at a UF football game & I was 16ish. I had just put an earring in my ear. My dad's drunk friend called me a F-G all day long. After the game, he called me that 1 more time & I beat his ass in the parking lot right in front of my parents. They did not say a word.

    Here in Colo, the kids never use ma'am or sir & call adults by their first names. They are very respectful & polite. I like it that way.
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    No offense taken, just pointing out my perspective. When we moved from New York to Central Florida in 1972 I probably did a double take the first time one of my friends called my mother ma’am And wondered if my grandmother was in the room
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    Interesting.

    I've 'sir'd' and 'mam'd' my whole life, and never once had anyone ever indicate the slightest annoyance for it.

    (and my kids do as well, fwiw).

    Just seems polite and respectful. Can scarcely wrap my mind around how it could be taken as anything but...
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    I was once asked by a cashier if I was paying with a credit card. I said "yes ma'am". She strongly reacted - she thought I said "yes man".
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    I generally just use it to address people like you mention when they are clearly older than me. Took me a while to break the habit of calling a cop that pulled me over Sir even though he was much younger than me. I think it makes people feel a little funny sometimes when an older or similar aged person calls them Sir or Ma'am.
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    I'm all about Jachai Polite.
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    Sometimes young people call me "boss". I'm not sure how to take that.
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    Don't call me "sir", you may refer to me as "lord god king".
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    I first noticed it at church from the kids. It wasn't Mr. Brady it was Mr. Mike.
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    deleted about 10 posts and unlocked the thread
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    LOL .... who said "yes sir" at the end of that clip??!