In the past three weeks I rarely ventured onto GatorCountry. Two weeks ago I lost a long and painful battle to save my marriage. In the past year or two I made a few post the my soon to be ex-wife suffered from a horrible disease called crps/rsd. I also mentioned that my wife and I adopted our three grand children. They are now teenagers. Well the past four years have been rough for my wife. Her pain never subsided and it spread. Also, the children grew into teenagers and their adolescent issues were so hard for us to manage. In the past year my wife slipped in and out of depression multiple times. Each bout of depression bought on more compulsive and expensive spending. When you factor in the medical bills with the compulsive spending our debt on unsecured loans exceeded $100,000. A year ago my wife's personality took a change. She turned on me. What started out with some sarcastic jabs at me end up being pure hatred of me. I was surprised and sadden how our last year played out. What is amazing is that we doing weekly family and marital therapy. The kids and I were making progress but my wife was regressing. No matter how hard I tried our home became a battleground. My wife would start chit and get the whole household upset. At the same time she was manipulating and using the kids as pawns. Eventually she turned the children against me. Things had turned out ugly. Through it all I continued to help my wife with her health battles. I took her to hospitals and doctors for treatments. I stayed at home while she recovered from flare ups. I even became Mr. Mom. Three weeks ago my wife snapped in a therapy session and announced that she hated me and that the marriage was over. Monday a week ago I came home from work. My wife was going out the door with her sister and our kids. I was told that they were going out to diner. I went to the lower level of the house that had became my new residence. I sat down and read an email my wife just sent me. It said, "had a sudden change in plans. I and the kids are moving out earlier than planned. We are headed to Texas to be near family". That was it. No apology and no good bye time with my kids. Before I knew it she took some a considerable amount of cash out of the checking account, used a credit card to put a lawyer on retainer, and rang up a few more thousand on another card. I was able to turn off the remaining money spigots and I got an attorney too. I tried contacting the kids but they will not talk to me or even return my texts and emails. That was eleven days ago. I am now over the initial shock and anger. I am filing for bankruptcy to keep me from going down the financial drain. I am doing this to keep me in in a position so that I can support my kids. I am keeping to the high road by not getting into the gutter with my wife and her family as the are fighting dirty. My divorce attorney is impress how I did not get into the mud slinging. She said my composure will go a long way with the kids in coming back to me. I will be a single man again in about 30 days. Hopefully the bankruptcy will be done by early January. The house will be on the market and I will be in a nice apartment three blocks from work and a block from a bar and a deli. I am sad about not being with my kids but one day they will come back to me and I will be ready to receive them. Other than that I am feeling good now. I my wife leaving me took a big load off of me. I lurk on the boards her but it will be awhile before I return back to friendly banter and joking we are known for her in Gator country. Catch you later Gators!