I Married the Wrong Person, Now What?

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    Jesus was much more forgiving than Paul. He's very harsh to women, men with long hair, homosexuals, et al.
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    I don't recall saying anything about a six-year engagement...I was referring to all those people who decide to marry someone after knowing them for a couple of months and a short engagement, then think everything's going to be just great. And I said engagement period, I never said about moving in together :wink:

    As for my grandparents, I think it was also a different society, too. Puerto Rico back then, especially for the upper class, was still very old-fashioned. My grandparents' families knew each other, and they knew that marriage was arranged even when little. There were supervised visits here and there, but no actual dating, and my grandmother married at 19. She knew from the beginning what her role would be, as did my grandfather. The love evolved after that, but they went in to the marriage with absolutely zero expectation of love. They had a mutual respect for each other and for making sure they followed the family wishes. That's why there was an uproar when my dad married my mom. She was seen as being from a lower-class family. My grandmother never accepted her. As for me, the matchmaking began early but my dad moved us out of PR so that fell through. :laugh:
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    we are fixin to celebrate our 30th anniversary and have never had a day where I thought I married the wrong person-now she may have as I am no prize-but can honestly say I won the lottery
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    Congrats :)
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    Paul's writings came thru Christ (God).
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    Complete nonsense. Jesus said, "Go and sin no more." And he also upheld the law of Moses.
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    OK. All of that is nice diehard, but what do you do when she is just WRONG?!?!?!?
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    Sorry, ice. I didn't mean to put words, or in this case, time frames in your mouth. My point was just that I don't believe longer pre-marital relationships are any type of silver bullet. People were mostly discussing "sticking-it-out" as what's most missing and I was trying to point out that our I-deserve-the-best-of-everything-in-life attitude is the demise of many of us and many of our marriages.

    Mis-aligned expectations aren't just a macro problem in terms of spousal income, waist size, or hairlines, but also in micro terms such as the infamous middle squeezing of toothpaste tubes.

    In my opinion, proper expectations are the key to every relationship in one's lives; professional, familial, friendships, romantic... Just take a look at the football forums right now.

    Our culture of high debt to income ratio so that you can have a 60" LED, two nice cars in your garage and a mortgage at 45% of your income isn't relegated to stuffs, it is also prevalent in our relationships.
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    Part of the problem with expectations is the strange notion people have that marrying a person will have some sort of magical transformation effect on the people getting married both as individuals and as a couple. Even my wife bought into this silly notion and she was none too happy when I flat out told her that since we already lived together before marriage, the only difference post marriage were two rings and a piece of paper that made breaking up more expensive.

    Took her a while to accept the statement, "It will be different once we are married," is patently and completely false. It never is.
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    Wow!

    None of the top 10 in New York, Cali, or Texas...or any of the southern states...but FOUR of the top 10, including numero uno, in Florida???

    That's...remarkable.
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    My daughter loves The Disney princesses. I'm always a bit concerned about the impact they might have on her, but haven't been able to find anything definitive to impel me to ban them from her.

    Got anything?
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    My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary. She said "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in about 3 seconds."

    I bought her a bathroom scale.

    And then the fight started......
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    ^^^LMAO!!!
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    Me, too. Just celebrated our 30th in July. Met at a party in Gainesville, married 7 months later. Couldn't have found a better man/partner if I'd searched a 100 years.
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    Lotta Yankees moving to Florida. Remember it's only the northern part of the state where the art of southern living truly exists.
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    Like Panama City? What about Deltona? J'ville? Those aren't your more transplant rich communities (I don't know much about Palm Bay...Palm Beach, yes, Palm Bay...not so much). If O'town, Miami, Ft. L'dale, Ft. Myers, Palm Beach and such were mentioned, I'd say your point is well taken--but the towns identified, don't exactly strike me as transplant havens.

    I'm not sure what to make of it, other than...'remarkable'/noteworthy. Four of the top ten, right here in F-L-A. Just...hmmmm. :huh:
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    One of the problems with marriage:

    A man marries a woman and she changes.

    A woman marries a man thinking she'll change him. He doesn't.

    Lotta truth in the above in too many relationships.
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    Point taken with Jax and PC. Deep in the Bible Belt sadly. Deltona not so much.

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