There is no one right recipe for a good marriage. Been married 16+ years and my wife works full time. She also makes nearly double my salary, and has most of her professional career. So I'm the one usually getting the kids from school, I do most of the laundry, and we split the cooking. Works for us and we are happy together. The reason we stay together is a mutual understanding that life apart from one another would never be as good as our life together. So we work hard, really hard at staying together. Too many of our friends have bailed on their marriages too quickly in my opinion. They hit a rough patch and instead of toughening it out, quit. And save but a small minority, most of them weren't any happier being single.