they're just replicating the lives they're surrounded with, with what they grew up around. that's what most of us do. grow up in a home where people work, take care of themselves and treat others with love and respect .... that's what you're most likely to do. grow up in a home where your father beats your mother, you're more likely to do that. grow up in a home without a father, where few in the neighborhood have fathers in their lives ... that becomes the natural thing for you.