Thanks for the suggestions guys. Sorry for making the thread and bailing.
The battle continues, but.... I think she may be pushing through to the other side. 143 the other day on the scale, and that is after 3+ weeks at 146 to 148.
I have her primed for beginning to lift weights. So much that she isn't resisting me getting some free weights for the garage.
Which also helps me so I can lift on days that I don't make it during lunch. Now watching craigslist for ensuing deals.
I also got her to give up the spray butter!!!!! How? In a fit of rage (after the scale told her 148), I expressed my opinion that perhaps "myfitnesspal" is just off, and that I really disagree with the spray butter. If only from a minimization in number of ingredients eaten. Spray butter has a lot, real butter has 1 (2 if it's salted). Later that day, I discovered a sneaky trick that food companies are allowed to get away with.
IF the amount of calories per serving is less than 1 (could have been 5, can't remember, info was vague on that part), the manufacturer can LEGALLY claim that it is zero calories. The "serving size" on the spray butter is "one spray" ... which is also up for interpretation (is a spray a full depression of the plunger, or a fraction?). Anyway, we discovered that the whole bottle really contains something like 1100 calories, so while less, it wasn't "FREE"... She then caved to my # of ingredients argument also and has significantly reduced the amount she uses. YAY.
She has also given herself a "free day"... She doesn't track anything on Saturday, and if she wants a burger, she eats a burger. Still tries to be intelligent about decisions though. Ironically enough, last saturday she had a greasy burger for lunch. Then franks spicy chicken dip and chips, fruit with cream cheese and marshmallow dip, grilled chicken wings, and tri-tip steak. Monday morning she weight the lightest she has in a month.
She has also picked up her walking more again and started doing pilates for 10 minutes a day. (with a band for resistance, this is probably a good starting point for her).